Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honour your father and mother” this is the first commandment with a promise. 

Ephesians 6:1-2 

Do we inadvertantly curse our parents?

Does this page involve you? If you are human and you have parents yes, because that makes you a ‘child' whether you are 9 or 90!

The way we treat our parents has a huge effect on our lives. God commands us to honour our mother and father. One of the principle reasons people are in counselling today is that children have become disconnected with their parents. Truth is, once they are gone it is very difficult to get healing from fear, insecurity, and control, which can have been a cause of the relationship problem to start with.

It is well documented that young people sometimes have an inability to understand the difference between parental leadership and protection and the opposite, unhealthy parental control. At this time both children and parents can say things they regret and deception enters into the relationship, it is nothing new, it has been happening since the dawn of mankind. It is an eden type scenario: the father says, 'don't do that it will harm you', the child then trusts another source of information. So where is the enemy speaking from today? Humanitarianism, ethics, teachers, physiologists, friends who are not in a good place in their hearts. The Bible teaches us that deception is constantly working against us, so where does it come from? The truth is if we knew where deception was in our lives it wouldn’t be deception.

The bottom line is that children carry the same DNA as their parents, not exactly but closer than any other person on earth, so they can't resolve brokenness in themselves if they can't recognise who made them. So the Bible wisdom stands true: if someone says they love God but hates their brother or sister that is actual living proof they are in deception. They can’t see deception but they can see the evidence. God is all about the fruit (evidence) our lives. 1 John 4:20

Whoever loves his brother abides in the light, and in him there is no cause for stumbling. 

1 John 2:10 (ESV)

If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. 

1 John 4:20 (ESV)

What Mum's and Dad's do…

It is funny that parents can have wonderful photographic records, love letters, and swooning cards of thanksgiving from their kids and then, after a short time away from the nest they hate you, avoid you and curse you. In most cases, hopefully, this is just a teenage phase. 

Truth is, loving parents wanted to have you, whether you were planned or not. They fed you, changed your nappies, gave you clothes, shelter, and love. The Bible call to us is that we love, obey and cherish every moment with them. 

Cursing your parents doesn’t always have to be to their face.

You can curse them in your heart. You can talk back, roll your eyes, wish harm, talk about them negatively to others, not respect their work or personal boundaries. Even how you walk about in their home might offend them. Do we walk around in our parents house like we own the joint? There are many little things that can escalate to build up tension and relationship breakdown, ending in disrespecting those who created you. The Bible teaches us that God deeply hates this.

The end times message

We are in the end times and God has told us that there will be more and more unloving and ungrateful children, wholly disconnected with their parents even reporting them to the authorities. Our society has become a place where children are not to be disciplined, humanitarians call it abuse instead of correction. There are more prisons and correctional facilities in the world today than ever before and it is because discipline no longer starts at home.

Young people today are being influenced by perverted and evil things on websites, TV, corrupted friends, and moral (society) degradation.

What to do? 

If you have cursed your parents, repent as soon as you can, apologise, ask forgiveness or whatever is necessary to re-connect the relationship. In any case it is silly to think that parents or children are perfect. What it is important to do is keep the channels open, and never put another person above your parents. 

What does the Bible say?

Below are some extremely challenging and somewhat violent verses from the Bible mentioning death and severe punishment. Thankfully we are in a more gentle New Testament times today. However, is it astonishing how angry God is about the relationship values between parents and children. Our only conclusion must be that it is very important and that it relates to how we think of God our 'father’. Many of the verses below relate to a time when the Holy Spirit was not as freely given to mankind (Old Testament period of Law) in comparison to the New Testament period now. Today, we are called to have relationship with our heavenly Father one to one through His son Jesus Christ. How we behave with our brothers, sisters, friends and parents reflect whether or not we are truly in relationship with God the Father.

Bible verses about honouring your parents

Ephesians 6:1-2 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honour your father and mother” this is the first commandment with a promise.

Proverbs 1:8 Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.

Proverbs 23:22 Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.

Deuteronomy 5:16 “Honour your father and your mother, as the LORD your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the LORD your God is giving you.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.

Matthew 15:4 (Jesus talking to the Pharisees about Old Testament law) For God said: Honour your father and your mother; and, The one who speaks evil of father or mother must be put to death.

Proverbs 20:20 (Old Testament law) Whoso curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness.

Exodus 21:17 (Old Testament law) And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death.

Leviticus 20:9 (Old Testament law) If there is anyone who curses his father or his mother, he shall surely be put to death; he has cursed his father or his mother, his bloodguiltiness is upon him.

Proverbs 30:11 “There are those who curse their fathers and do not bless their mothers;

Deuteronomy 27:16 “Cursed is anyone who dishonours their father or mother.” Then all the people shall say, “Amen!”

Proverbs 30:17 (Old Testament law) The eye that mocks a father and scorns to obey a mother will be picked out by the ravens of the valley and eaten by the vultures.

Matthew 15:18-20 But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a person. But to eat with unwashed hands does not defile anyone.”

“Exodus 21:15 (Old Testament law) Whoever strikes his father or his mother shall be put to death.

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